Sex Worker Wrestling: An Untapped Kink

My smooth, muscular thighs wrap around his neck as he gasps for air, straining against the pressure, soft groans leaving his mouth as he helplessly attempts to wriggle free from my grasp. The back of his head is planted against the crotch of my skimpy short shorts as I continue to hold him in place against me with little effort. This is fun, I thought. Why didn't I try this a long time ago?

After what feels like a few minutes but is probably just a few seconds of sensual struggle, he taps my thigh three times signaling defeat. Breathing heavy, a look of shock frames his face as he exclaims, "You're a lot stronger than you look!"

We then try a different position, this time on the bed, where I'm straddling his torso and holding his arms down, leveraging the power of my lower body, arms and back as I pin him down. Trying with all his manly might, he still can't break free.

This may sound like a nightmare to some men.

Yet there's a growing number of men who really love this stuff and I'll attempt to explain my experience with the kink to both educate the casual reader and help other SWers realize the possibility of discovering this new word of erotic wrestling.

Why don't more SWers offer sensual wrestling sessions? They may not be aware of the kink so, in my attempts to help other SWers succeed, I'm writing this post to hopefully convince a few other providers to try this fun fetish. I don't believe in gatekeeping and was put on this earth to tell my stories in order to help other heal and succeed. The more I give away, the more I help others, the more the universe helps me.

Sensual wrestling isn't truly wrestling. My wrestling admirers show me wrestling holds, or I suggest certain holds, and they attempt to free themselves. So far, no one has escaped. The idea is an out-of-breath, sexy fight, like two kids who have crushes on one another in the school yard using a play fight as an excuse to get physically close.

Or, for the daring, we continue the playfighting and I use an agreed upon technique to throw them to the ground. A recent playmate, let's call him M., showed me a move in which I used my stronger leg, wrapping it around his knee from behind, causing him to lose balance while pushing him to the floor from his shoulders. Over, and over, and over again. He loved it.

The first time this happened and I shoved him to the ground, he, like all the rest, was shocked by how strong I am. Unlike 99% of women who sadly only train glutes, my favorite body parts to train are my arms and back, with my genetics blessing me with a back that's stronger than many a man's despite looking extremely feminine. So when using the full force of my well trained legs, arm, and back I am quite the femme force of nature.

The thrill arises, I've been told, from a very feminine woman with long nails and thick, luscious red hair dressed in skin tight clothing actually being strong and capable enough to play fight and win.

No, I could never beat a man in actual wrestling because most men are physically stronger than me and I don't actually have wrestling training. But when I have the advantage and am the one controlling the hold, a man who doesn't weight train wouldn't be able to escape from my grasp.

Some men enjoy the idea of losing control to a woman. This is a well known phenomenon due to the popularity of Femdom and dominatrix content online. This core idea remains when applied to sensual wrestling: Turning gender norms around is very exciting for many people. Being rebellious and walking on the wild side is exhilarating in and of itself. Adding the sensual pleasures of body to body contact and play heightens the thrill.

Every wrestling admirer has told me, after engaging in the kink for over ten years, that I'm one of the strongest women they've wrestled. Most women, they tell me, don't train their back and arms but have strong legs.

Not to brag, but I recently beat a man at arm wrestling using my weaker arm. He was genuinely flabbergasted and it was hilarious. To be fair, he did beat me using my stronger arm. I grew up with brothers so play fighting and arm wrestling is fun and in order to be a successful provider nowadays, I've found that being as authentic as possible and appealing to my people brings me great success.

Being milquetoast and attempting to appeal to everyone doesn't work. Finding a niche does, but that's a blog for a different day.

Wrestling clients don't want to hurt anyone. I'm sure there are some bad actors who attempt to harm women during sessions but that applies to any in-person SW.

So ladies, this is your message: Look at my photos. Do I look "bulky" or manly? Do my arms and back look like a body builder's? Not at all yet I max out the cable machines when doing certain back movements like rows.

Can a woman still wrestle if she doesn't weight train? Sure, but it may not be as fun. If you played sports and danced from a young age like me, your body is already strong so with a little effort at the gym and a lot of protein, you'd definitely be a good wrestler but I don't recommend it for women who don't do any weight training and are vegan. (Just kidding. Plants have protein.)

How to we book wrestling clients? I advertise "kink" in my Tryst header and socials, as well as post workout content or content in workout clothes and weight training gloves. My obsession with physical fitness is apparent and I talk way too much about protein intake.

This is also attractive to men generally because people who take care of their bodies and health are seen as prime potential mates to many. Who doesn't want to be with someone who looks good? Lots of men weight train so I began attracting clients who are into the gym or who have physical hobbies like running marathons.

And for Goddess's sake, start lifting some weights in addition to squatting and lunging. There's so much research proving the importance of muscle mass when it comes to quality of life and life expectancy that it's silly not to do some upper body weight training. Bone density loss in women leads to falls and fractures, leading to disability and death at an older age.

That's why I started training; My family has a history of osteoporosis. Plus, I wanted to look a bit muscular for aesthetic reasons and had no idea it would be this financially beneficial for my business. We can still be soft, girly, and femme while being strong. Paradox is an essential quality that, when embraced, can be quite seductive.

Please be sure to like my Bluesky post regarding this blog if you thought something I wrote was interesting or informative. Reposting and commenting on my posts really helps. Thank you so much for you love and support. ❤️‍🔥