How to Authentically Connect with Clients: A Guide for Sex Workers

Sliding down onto him, piercing his soul with my gaze, I saw how much he craved connection. He sought a Higher Power, a meaning beyond that which the material provides. His job keeps him distracted; He enjoys it for the most part but no matter what he does, no matter how many accomplishments in business he achieves; He feels like a piece is missing.

Pulling his shoulders, I shift him into position on top of me as I feel his soul entering mine while we lock eyes in bliss. A few hours earlier at dinner, he'd opened up to me about the darkness he conquered in his life and how he thrives today because of the struggles and battles he's won. Everyone has darkness within due to the toxic, selfish, negative society we somehow survive in and when he told me about his personal battle, I immediately knew I could also open myself up to him and that we were about to have some of the most mind bending, earth shattering sex to have ever occurred on Mother Earth.

That Which the Scientific Method Cannot Explain

The Universe, the Wilderness, my Ancestors... That which cannot be explained or measured via the scientific method had brought this man into my life so that he could bless me and I could bless him. I'm not able to genuinely connect with all my clients due to a few being closed off and unwilling to open themselves to me. This blog isn't about them.

This blog is for the clients who have good energy and see us as people, as flawed humans. They have struggled, survived and grew to love themselves more and more each day. This self love radiates like a magnet and attracts us to them. The techniques I write about can't be applied to clients who are closed off and only you will know; Only you can sense their energy.

Cringe All You Want

You can cringe all you want at my writing but, as I've said before, your cringe is my orgasm and abundant prosperity.

Teaching myself how to practice self love/inner Goddess energy work/magic has shifted my focus to bring me blessings, generous, attractive, kind clients and the long-term suitors I deserve. Anyone can practice energy work but a select few are naturally gifted and born to spread our stories across the globe in order to help others find their magic.

Learning how to, for an often brief, blissful moment in time, share a piece of my soul during my bookings has brought me prosperity and blessings I thought weren't possible. This required a painful evolution, a shedding of the skin not for the faint of heart.

Please read my prior blogs on energy work because those will form a basis for the message I'm conveying here and will explain energy work AKA magic for those who aren't familiar with the scientific basis of such work. Theories of modern physics, regarding abundant and mutable energy, can be applied to energy work in order to explain the veracity of occult theories and magic, usually misunderstood and mocked practices.

You practice energy work daily, you're simply not aware you're doing it.

And no, the scientific method, for a variety of reasons, is not meant to and will never prove that energy work is "real" partly because Divine experiences don't repeat. But I explain more in my prior blogs. Our world is very sick, very materialist, and many won't comprehend what I'm writing but I know there are a few who will.

SW and Shame: I am Sacred

Many SWers feel a deep sense of shame due to society telling us we are shameful. We live in a very Christian culture that teaches many that SW is dirty, evil, bad and many of us, without realizing it, take on and reinforce this view of our work when in reality, we are healers and healthy companions. As I explain in a prior blog, everyone is prostituting themselves under capitalism and performing labor for someone else. SW isn't any better or worse than any other work.

Some of us are naturally sexual creatures who were born to be companions and kinksters. Like the Holy Whores of Babylon, our incalls are our temples and our bodies are shrines. Learning how to practice self love/Divine Feminine awakening energy work destroys this shame.

As I apply my homemade Self Love oil before sessions, I say, "I am Divine," three times.

"I am perfect."

"I am the Divine Feminine."

"I am Sacred."

I chant as I run my hands from my head, down my body while visualizing a holy white light and energy encapsulating me. I invoke the Divine Feminine Erotic Goddess, and ancient energy that has always existed and taken many forms throughout history.

SWers must unlearn this imposed shame if we want to be financially successful because it inhibits us from loving everything about ourselves and prevents us from being confident enough to connect in a genuine way during sessions.

Many SWers can fake this confidence and charm but this can't last for long and eventually, they lose clients due to the deep, immutable insecurities they attempt to hide with grandiosity.

The Energies of Nature

The key is really very simple: Working with the energies of the moon, nature, ancient energies known as deities, and our own will will transmute energy and change who we are. The key to true prosperity and blessings is so ascend into our higher selves by focusing on self love/inner Divinity energy work. Everyone needs more self love but it seems like people are either lacking in self awareness or shamed into thinking they're not good enough because they know they need more self love.

Once I started focusing on invoking my inner Goddess via self love magic, everything changed. Energy work doesn't work overnight and is a lifelong process. We must constantly detoxify the negativity from this negative world that we pick up by, for example, reading someone's negative post online. Just going out to the store can lead us to cross paths with someone who's unhappy and negative so cleansing is a very important part of my practice.

Working With the Moon: First We Banish

Many practitioners find that working with the cycles of the moon is important. During the waning moon phase, from the day after the full moon through to the new moon, I work reversible candles which remove negativity and send it back to where/who it came from. I noticed a huge difference in my life after working my first reversible candle. We can't ascend into our higher selves without healing our Shadow and constantly removing negativity.

Banishing baths are exceptionally useful as water takes on the frequency of the energy emitted into it. I should write a separate post on how I work mine but I cast a circle counter clockwise with pink salt, call in the elements, say a prayer and use a black candle and banishing herbs tied in a coffee filter.

Black absorbs all other colors and due to the Law of Correspondence, also absorbs negativity that may be hanging around us from negative clients and people. I take at least 2 banishing baths a month and command negative energy (while invoking a Dark Feminine like Hecate) out of my person and my space.

The Evil Eye

Attractive, successful, empathetic, communicative people online will often be the targets of jealous and unwell, extremely self hating, negative people with sociopathic/narcissistic/obsessive tendencies who will say and do anything, spread nutty slander in an attempt to abuse anyone that bruises their fragile ego by simply being hotter, richer, smarter and more powerful than them.

Some people refer to this jealous energy as the evil eye.

For better or for worse, SWers today are public figures who share very intimate parts of ourselves publicly. According to research on personality disorders, one in ten people are either a sociopath, psychopath or a narcissist. Some are both narcissists and sociopaths. Just think about all the jealous, self hating energy that these people are obsessively projecting onto our social media posts and images. This is why we must be removing this negative energy constantly.

Using smoke to cleanse is a very important part of my practice and many adepts consider this to be spiritual, or energetic, hygiene. I use smoke at least once daily to remove less powerful negative energies and wrote about this in a prior blog, linked above. We must constantly detox from the toxicity of our sick culture and sick people who are incapable of self reflection, evolution and honesty.

Working with the Moon: Calling in Love

When the light begins filling the moon, from the new moon through to the full moon, I practice calling in love, self love and positivity by performing self love workings. During the two weeks before the full moon as the energy/light reflected on the moon is growing, we call things into us like prosperity. We open the door to new blessings instead of removing that which doesn't serve us.

Removing negativity and invoking my Higher Self via self love work has allowed me to connect with my clients in a way that simply wasn't possible before I was a practitioner. This is a lifelong practice involving energies that will only be felt if we knock upon their door. Once we ask for help from these energies, they will provide. It's as simple as invoking or evoking them and asking for their presence.

Those who never knock, will never find.

Higher Self Oil

Every day, and definitely before bookings, I apply my Self Love/Higher Self oil. Do you have olive oil, a cinnamon stick a bay leave, and cloves or vanilla extract? Put your plants in a dark bottle (these are cheaply purchased online) and pour in olive oil. Bam.

We will now have an oil that, if infused with self love energy (using our thoughts and words) and used consistently over time with the correct cleansings and workings, will slowly help us to evolve into who we were born to be: Radiant, naturally attractive vessels of light and love.

Clients will be mesmerized by our mere presence, our photos, our words. Because a fierce confidence and positivity is fiercely attractive.

Anyone can look up different energy workings that allow us to fall deeply in love with our flaws and ourselves, but I love pink candle magic. This blog is already too long so I won't go into details.

Anyone can DM me if they have questions regarding exactly how to perform self love candle magic. The point is: Switching our frequencies to ones of negativity, or judgement of others, to focusing on hypnotizing ourselves with self love/awareness of our Higher Selves is the most powerful thing we can do to attract clients.

I create self love charms, write self love cards anointed with herbs and oils and just made Self Love/Inner Goddess full moon incense with lavender, cinnamon sticks, rose petals and a drop of holy feminine blood to seal my incense with the power of my ancestors.

Meditation of course is another tool for connecting with our inner Goddess. As is psychedelic journeying but I would need to write separate blogs on all of these tools to better explain them.

An Ongoing Process

We can read all the books on learning communication tools, and those books are useful. We can ask our clients tons of questions, stay present and make our sessions/social media about them, not us and follow branding advice from marketing gurus. Learning body language tells and hypnosis techniques can also be useful but the most effective way to obtain repeat bookings with clients who we actually enjoy is to radiate a deep, powerful sense of self love.

When we constantly perform self love workings, we know that others rejecting us or being negative is about them and their insecurities, not us. We no longer take on or react to negativity.

This process is ongoing and may take a while to really notice results. But slowly, over time, as we continue to focus on this work, we'll naturally be able to open up authentically, sharing who we truly are with clients who are similarly open. I started attracting a totally different type of client after I began practicing energy work: The don't neg, condescend, and are never disrespectful.

If you want me to write more specifically about the different self love/Inner Divinity magical workings I undertake, please leave a comment on my Bluesky. Commenting on my Bluesky posts, reposting and liking them so others can find them helps.

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