Where the Weird Ones Are: Why Do "Weird" Sex Workers Make the Most Money?

They weren't overtly conventionally attractive. They weren't cisgender and, in fact, blurred gender norms. They were covered in tattoos and piercings and yet, they had a cadre of dedicated whales. (A "whale" is a generous regular who spends serious cash.)

Upon seeing this provider's extremely unique yet totally rad hairstyle and aesthetic, most non-SWers and many SWers would assume that this person is too damn weird to really do well financially. We imagine that the cis, boring, vaguely opinion-less, implant-having, super skinny yet big-butt SWers who post photos in upscale looking locations make the most bread. I'm not saying that these Basics don't do well; They appeal to a certain type of dude. That's for sure.

What I'm saying is: Honing in on our uniqueness is how we find our most generous regulars, a fact I don't think many people get.

Please, allow me to explain.

I'm Not Pretty Enough

Commentors on my social media have told me they're not "pretty" enough to do SW. Folks really think that SW is all about looks, therefore implying that SW is easy and all we do is skate by on being hot. All we do is suck a D and spread da puss whilst being conventionally attractive. (I wish.)

This notion, of course created and enforced by SW stigma/Puritanism/sexism, devalues our hard work. The point of marketing is to make this all look effortless and I don't like to go into detail regarding how difficult SW is on a client-facing platform.

Suffice to say, you have no idea how much time and money I spend on social media marketing, planning photoshoots, designing this website, planning tours, customer service, screening clients, learning how to seduce admirers, writing (honestly, doesn't really count because self expression/writing is my passion) and more.

When a provider takes the time to put in all of this work and cultivates a genuine-to-them yet still marketable persona, that's when they begin to find a small cadre of suitors who allow them to be financially independent and successful. A key component includes not going full bore into our uniqueness because this is still a business and certain norms must be followed under capitalism to succeed.

Social Media Skills and Beauty Norms

For example, the providers I'm thinking of while writing this piece are very skilled at keeping their social medias 100% chill and positive. They don't use their marketing socials to crap talk/name/target other SWers for harassment, which scares off most clients who see this behavior as insecure, negative drama mongering. They don't engage with other providers who attempt to provoke them. They are marketing 24/7.

They also fit the beauty norms by having skinny-ish bodies. They diet, workout and are willing to mold themselves, like many SWers, in order to please clients and rack it up. Their faces aren't beautiful but are attractive. One has bigger boobs which, of course, helps because men are simple creatures.

They'd be just another moderately attractive hewker in a sea of hewkers if it wasn't for their authenticity. I use the term "authenticity" loosely because they obviously edit themselves while performing as their work persona. Regardless, there's still something there that's intangible and lets us know that they are, mostly, being themselves.

Couples Therapy for SWers

One of these "weird" providers told me how she'd convinced her whale to take her on a few 7 DAY FMTY's. And these weren't the fake FMTY's you see providers talking about (but showing no actual photographic evidence of) on social media. Nay, nay, nay. They posted tons of photos from their extended FMTY's and I was highly impressed at their skill when it came to making her clients feel as though they were in a non-client relationship with her.

One gal's whale had been told by his financial advisor that he was spending too much money on her. What did she do? What any SWer would do when a client tries to leave: She convinced him to go to couples therapy with her and retained him as a high paying regular.

I am so impressed by the interpersonal skill that this provider displayed in making her client feel as though they were a couple! Legendary. This interpersonal skill must also be considered when analyzing weirder SWers. They often can get away with being very different because they are highly skilled manipulators and only need to seduce and retain one or two Beluga's to succeed.

Born to Comfort: Genuine Empathy

Some SWers are highly skilled when it comes to empathy and were born to comfort and connect with others. It's not all about manipulation.

One more uniquely presenting, beloved and very successful SW, pseudonym KT, has been a great source of comfort to me personally during this period of being outed, doxxed, slandered, harassed due to warning folks about two very unbalanced and dangerous SWers from social media. KT has also been abused by another fairly well known SW and no one really cared because SWers are terrified of garnering attention from another unwell SWer and becoming the next victim so stay silent.

Additionally, SWers are on socials to make money and be the fantasy, not warn other SWers about malignant individuals in our midst so it's been frustrating to see these known doxxers continue to get away with abusing other SWers.

I then saw why KT was so good at SW: They truly cared. They authentically connect with their clients by utilizing genuine empathy. They would chat back and forth, holding space for me to express myself and feel heard during a very, very trying time and were one of only a handful of folks who had the discernment to see what was really occurring online with the fake MD in Chicago and the nut in Vegas.

KT has a deep, compassionate nature that lends itself to being a great SWer.

SWers who break the mold must truly be skilled as SWers in order to succeed and being thin with a nice butt and bigger boobs helps. I don't think everyone can get away with this sort of look branding.

The Mammalian Brain

Weirdos are also financially successful because they appeal to the mammalian brain in that they shock our senses, forcing us to notice them. The limbic system and reticular activating system are, according to behavioral expert/author (and my current obsession) Chase Hughes, the most powerful parts of our brain. Anything shocking or out of the ordinary forces us to stop and look. In our current attention economy, the ability to make potential clients top scrolling and actually click on our ads or photos is marketing gold.

Think of it like this: These parts of our brain developed long ago because our ancestors needed to stop and look if a twig cracked in the forest, announcing a predator. We're highly attuned to noticing anything odd within our environment. This is why shock marketing and provocative images can be so effective.

Use this information as you will.

Hi, I'm Rose and I'm a Weirdo. (Hi, Rose!)

Am I one of these weirdos? Absolutely. I am aware that my blogs and pro-SW Bluesky posts probably scare off a few insecure dudes who don't have much respect for women/SWers. I'm aware that leaning into my kinky GFE/domme side may scare off guys who think I must be disagreeable because I share my thoughts and often provide kinky experiences. (Guys, I want to make money with repeat clients. Why would I be mean or contrarian unless you paid me t0?)

Talking about film, music and moral issues may distract some guys or turn off potential clients who want dumb SWers because they feel lesser than when engaging with an intelligent woman.

I don't give a fuck. Why?

We must crack a few eggs in order to make a cake. We must crack a few glittery rose gold Pleasers in our journey to SWer superstardom. We must piss off a few unhappy folks in order to live our truth.

In the process of upsetting or turning off some people, we attract to us who we're truly meant to connect with in this world.

Modern SW truly is, like these blogs, walking a tightrope between marketability and genuine self expression. People who aren't lacking intuition and discernment can immediately tell if someone is faking it or if something is off with the persona we're attempting to present.

My advice isn't to dye your hair a shocking color or get tons of tats, unless that's your thing. My advice is to make a list of your favorite things, what makes you unique, and try to cultivate imagery that expresses this story.

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