Sitting on Faces for Fun and Franklins: Demystifying the Popular Kink

"What's that?" I asked.

"A Smotherbox," He replied, grinning like a pussy loving Cheshire cat who was about to partake in high potency pussy-flavored catnip.

My ex-boyfriend and I were always looking for new ways to enjoy kinky play and while browsing kink websites, he'd discovered a contraption known as a Smotherbox/Smother Box/Queening Chair/Facesitting Throne and had purchased one on Etsy. The box had an opening on the top where I was to comfortably sit while the horizontal opening, featuring two straps that wrapped under his arms, fit his neck and secured him in place beneath me.

After a few facesitting sessions, I was too worn out to continue due to engaging my glutes the entire time and my ex always wanted more so our Smotherbox was the perfect solution.

Kinky GFE or domme Smotherbox

He'd placed the box on the middle of our bed, surprising me when I came home, stressed from a civ job and needing someone or something to release this pent up energy with.

"I don't need that. You know I'm strong enough to hold you down with my legs," I teased, reaching my arms around his neck.

"I don't know about that," He feigned anger and picked me up as I wrapped my legs around his waist, carefully dropping me down onto the bed next to his new toy. Our relationship was like no other I've had since because we were both true switches, in touch with both shadow selves: our dominant and submissive sides.

Tonight, I was holding the reigns.

Why do so many of my clients love facesitting? Some readers not well versed in the realms of diverse sexuality may think men want one thing: BJ's. Well, that and penetrative sex. How does "queening," an activity in which a woman takes a dominant position, riding her partner's face and often using her body weight and strength to hold him down, please men who are generally socialized to be more selfish and dominant than women?

Kinky play with a natural redhead may kill you.

Mainstream portrayals of sex are usually totally unrealistic and don't account for the different ways in which egos are fed. Everyone has an ego but all of us require different food to feed our egos. Some of us feed our egos with attention. Some crave power. Some of us want to be great and exceptionalism feeds our egos.

Folks who live for pleasing others via facesitting have egos that are fed by being needed, useful, and helping others. Sacrifice feeds their egos. Making her orgasm and sexually stimulating her feeds his ego.

The feeling of pressure, moisture and darkness allows the giver-of-cunnilingus to focus on losing control and pleasing their partner. This is why some Smotherboxes are padded: The outside world is quieted and the sub can fully delve into his secret world of service.

As conservative views around sex and sexuality slowly dissolve, more and more people are exploring non-vanilla activities and many of my admirers book me specifically for kinky GFE facesitting sessions in which I ride their face then further please myself (and them) by riding other parts of their anatomy. It's a win/win situation.

Will he live to see another day?

If my partner wants to go deep into subspace while my delicious, sopping wet, fat pussy is in his mouth and my strong thighs are cradling his head, I will up the intensity and pinch his nipples, use my crop or flogger to inflict light pain or smother him further with my body weight. Fully smothering him so he can't breathe is another option to be toyed with but my admirers must first let me know what exactly their limits are when it comes to facesitting.

As always, I obtain consent before engaging in any of these power exchange activities and unless a domme session is requested, I'm in traditional companion mode. I do not sit on your face unless you request this beforehand. Not every man is ready to get this deep inside the power of the Divine Feminine. Even the word "feminine" often has negative connotations and makes certain men uncomfortable, but that's not a topic to be discussed on a client-facing blog.

Or is it?

Natural Redheads Make the Hottest Kinky Girlfriends

Combining my GFE and domme personas meant I began being inundated with a ginormous, sopping wet flood of facesitting requests that would make Noah tremble in his water shoes.

I was afraid to combine these personas because I thought it would scare away vanilla clients. Sure, I'm sure I scare away a few insecure misogynists but is that a bad thing? I'm a handcrafted, 34 year old Glenfiddich single malt Scotch, not meant for mass consumption. Advertising as "kinky" has attracted many domme curious or experienced admirers to me who love, and I mean LOVE face sitting. It truly combines domme with the girlfriend-eque encounter due to the intimacy and service involved.

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In the name of the Mother, Maiden, Holy Crone. Amen.

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